Who Would I Like to Have a Curiosity Conversation With?
I would talk to someone who has passed on. My Dad.
I would ask him about his childhood, growing up in the Al Capone/Chicago mafia controlled Cicero, Illinois. I’m curious about his parents coming over from Europe as teenagers. How did they meet? Who and what did they leave behind?
Then I’d ask him about the two wars he fought in–World War II and Korea–that he always refused to discuss with us kids. Was he scared? How did he cope? What thoughts gave him courage? How did war change him?
I’m curious about he felt about playing college football and falling in love with the cheerleader who became his wife and my Mom. What made college so special that he went back to his reunions every year for over 50 years?
I want to know more about my childhood. What was I like? What did I do that made him proud or pissed off? Yes, I lived my childhood and should remember it. But you don’t because you’re just a kid and you can’t put it into context.
Then I’d ask him about his almost 60 years of marriage to my Mom. What worked? What didn’t? How did they make it through the lean years? Five kids? Losing a daughter? Growing older?
So many questions I COULD have asked him in the almost 60 years I was his daughter, but didn’t. To be honest, I did ask some of them. But I want to know more. Because now I am old enough and experienced enough to know I could have learned so much more from him.