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How Do You Want to Be Remembered?

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I Want To Be Remembered:

As someone who unabashedly and out loud expressed my feelings of joy, surprise, glee or sorrow.
I did so as a child.
Why not as an adult?

As a person who spoke her truth, without stooping to sarcasm or snarkiness.
I say what I mean and I mean what I say.
So people will know what I stand for and what I won’t tolerate.

As a Mom who loved my kids with the fierceness of a protective lioness,
the gentle nurturing of a doe,
the playfulness of a squirrel and the
wisdom of the mother bird who demonstrates to her children how to
safely and successfully leave the nest and build their own.

As a wife who loved, respected and appreciated my husband as a fellow human,
my life partner, the father and co-raiser of my children,
an excellent provider, protector and heart mate.

As a friend who listened first, observed second, shared third and judged rarely.

As a daughter who forgave my parents their mistakes and learned from them,
emulated their successes, and always loved and respected them.

As a neighbor who opened my home and heart to the families,
especially the children,
so we could be the village we all yearned for.

As a sister who told my siblings that I loved them, why I loved them
and how they made the world a better place for me and everyone else.

As an aunt who praised my nieces and nephews from the highest rooftops
for their accomplishments and consoled them
when they were in the depths of despair.

As a storyteller who loved and lived Story enough to show others
how they too could enter Story Land and be the hero in their own Story.

I want to be remembered this way.  Although wordy, it would be a great obituary
after I have taken that last, long walk to my journey’s end.  But is it the truth?
The whole truth?
And nothing but the truth?  Nope.
I am going to ask myself some tough questions:

Do I always meet my own high standards?  Goodness no.

Have I been sarcastic or snarky today?  Um, twice so far.  It’s noon.

Do I apologize when I violate my own standards?  Yes, when I realize it.  Most times.

Are there still some lingering judgements about others swirling around in my head, begging to be spoken?  Yep. They’re pretty loud too.

Have I ever considered myself the victim instead of the hero in my own Story? Yessss.

Have I now negated my original list of how I want to be remembered?  I don’t think so. It is still my goal and desire. One I pray I will be able to say someday is the truth.

To reach it, I need to live it.  Each day,
with constant course corrections,
addendums and restarts.
Starting today.
Posted in Children, Death, Experience, Listening, Love, Marriage, Memory, Motherhood, Self Awareness

Can You Predict If A Marriage Will Be Successful?

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Yes.  Will It Last Forever?  Maybe… A few years ago, our Nephew proposed to his lady love.  We were delighted and I sent him this letter: Dear Nephew: First of all, congratulations!  You have taken so many small and huge steps in your progression to manhood and maturity. We have all vicariously enjoyed your many triumphs and rarely had to commiserate on any tragedies. Your latest life step–proposing to your Lady–takes you to a whole new level. My crystal ball, into which I am gazing, (which looks remarkably like an iPad) shows me your future.   I see work and career.  Long hours and longer meetings.   Transitions and transfers and traveling.  Money earned and money spent. Those are the things that will populate your future life. What will FILL your life is your love for and with your Lady. I see romantic evenings and rocky times.   Fussing and kissing, … Continue reading →

Posted in College, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Self Awareness, Soul
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