We are powerful women. We are heart filled women.
We are women of integrity and insight.
And we have hidden our lights under a basket for too long.
Now is our time to shine and share. So we start with each other.
And the ripples flow outward.
The One Thing I Would Change is… First of all, there is no changing the past. No wishing to be taller, thinner, richer, stronger, smarter. My Past got me to my Now and, like Popeye, “I yam what I yam.” I know. This cartoon reference has dated me but I can’t help it. His whole theme song won’t stop circling in my brain. You hear it now too, don’t you? Recap: I cannot change my past and that is good because my past got me to who and what and where I Am and I accept and am grateful for that awareness. I cannot change the future because all I have is NOW. Yes, I believe my thoughts and actions NOW will form my future. Which is why it is so important to be present and mindful. NOW. I can and do commit to living, from this moment forward, with … Continue reading →
My Ah Ha Moment Was About My Sis: A couple of years ago our Book Club read “Wild” by Cheryl Strayed (back when we were actually reading books instead of discussing Life). If you haven’t read the book or seen the movie starring Reese Witherspoon, do so. Both are worthy of your time and your tears. I was quite uncomfortable reading about the lifestyle and risks Cheryl Strayed took. At our meeting I emphatically stated, “It is totally unnecessary to personally experience the peaks and valleys someone else takes on their Hero’s Journey in order to learn the lessons. You can simply analyze another’s journey, compare it to your own and then make the changes that would incorporate that knowledge without the pain.” Emphasis on without the pain. I still believe that argument, to a certain extent. Logically, life could not have kept moving forward if evolution hadn’t included moments … Continue reading →
I Want To Be Remembered: As someone who unabashedly and out loud expressed my feelings of joy, surprise, glee or sorrow. I did so as a child. Why not as an adult? As a person who spoke her truth, without stooping to sarcasm or snarkiness. I say what I mean and I mean what I say. So people will know what I stand for and what I won’t tolerate. As a Mom who loved my kids with the fierceness of a protective lioness, the gentle nurturing of a doe, the playfulness of a squirrel and the wisdom of the mother bird who demonstrates to her children how to safely and successfully leave the nest and build their own. As a wife who loved, respected and appreciated my husband as a fellow human, my life partner, the father and co-raiser of my children, an excellent provider, protector and heart mate. As a … Continue reading →
How I Handle Emergencies: In the far past—really poorly. Hubby loves to regale friends and family with stories of when I used to faint at the sight of blood. My own as well as others. Non-blood emergencies I did not handle much better. Getting lost? Total panic. Unfamiliar technology? Total confusion. Conflict and shouting? Total shutdown. Or the reverse of Flight and I went into full knight in armor Fight mode. By midlife—fair to middling. After years of therapy, 12 step programs, metaphysical training and personal growth workshops I was better prepared and more emotionally mature. Fight or flight turned into stand and face. Less yelling and crying and more calm detachment and intellectualizing. More recently—pretty well! I have been able to add Trust, Compassion, Calmness and Clarity to my set of emergency handling skills. Those skills were hard won from years of dealing with family dramas and … Continue reading →
Birds I love the birds that visit our yard. Cardinals and chickadees. Yellow and purple finch. Hawks and hummingbirds. Robins, wrens, sparrows and titmice. Owls and crows and woodpeckers. And blue jays. I have a special affinity for the blue jays. Their color is striking and catches my attention no matter the weather or season. But their call is grating and harsh and they drive the smaller birds away from the bird feeders. So, why do I like them so much? Many summers ago, I heard the blue jays in our bank of burning bushes screaming for help. As my family watched from the deck, I ran into the middle of the 12 foot high bushes like a crazy lady. Armed with a garden stake I pulled out of the ground, I found a pair of blue jays next to their nest. They were screaming because they were trying to … Continue reading →